Going through life, you will find yourself at a crossroads where you have to make some life-changing decisions. These are the big ones. What to do with your life, and the values and beliefs you decide to adopt. Other decisions will involve other people as well, like whom to marry, when to get married, and when to start a family. Having your own family means that you no longer need to convince your friends to come along for a lake cabin trip, you have your own clan for life.
But what are the things you need to consider before making such a monumental decision? Let’s find below:
Whether you are emotionally ready
This doesn’t come easy for all people. Some just know it and dive right in; however, for others, it might take years for them to get there. You will need to have the emotional capacity to provide and sacrifice things like a good night’s sleep and peace of mind. You and your partner can offer to babysit for friends and family to get a glimpse of what it’s like to be responsible for a tiny human being. Bonus points, your friends will have to return the favour later on and babysit for you!
Do you have the financial means?
If you think about your expenses as a single person; from rent to groceries and beyond, it is incomparable to that of a family’s. The financial burden is very stressful and can take a toll on you and your partner’s relationship. However, if you have a smart and realistic family budget plan, it should be smooth sailing from that point after. You will need to work out your monthly income vs. expected expenses of having a family (the extra groceries plus the endless list of baby items) in a given month and then do your projections accordingly. If it all adds up, you are good to go.
Is your home big enough?
You will have to decide if you are ready to give up your current home. This cute little studio in the downtown area will be traded for a duplex in the suburbs to fit your growing family. Even if you already live in a big house, you will have to do some remodeling to welcome the kids. Next, some childproofing needs to be put in place, like adding some bumping guards and installing in-house fences.
Will you need an extra hand?
If your employer does not provide adequate parental leave, you will need to make sure that a family member can help out whenever you need it. Or, you can seek professional domestic help services. Remember to have this budgeted for to make sure you can afford it.
With some realistic planning, you should be able to comfortably decide when the time is right to start your own family. Make sure you are ready emotionally and financially before you decide to start a family. So, give it the thought it deserves.