It’s no secret that I often wake up in the morning feeling like death: almost five months of broken sleep will do that to a gal. I’m lucky enough to have a great husband who often gets up with Elfie between 6.30-7 to let me lie in til 8 or so but I still never feel refreshed in the morning. Last night Hux woke at 12.30, 1.30, 2.30, 4.30 and Elfie woke at 6.10. Will is working away in Bristol so I was solo parenting and it’s fair to say I am feeling ridiculously not at my best.
Once this is coupled with a bit of an emotional week and the mess of frizz on top of my head I start feeling suspiciously like a hermit. Because it’s no fun facing the outside world when your insides aren’t feeling so hot.
BUT! I have found a solution! I realised that even when I’m feeling like crap on the inside, if I make the outside appear like non-crap then the inside magically gets better. It’s quite something and is a move I will be attempting on each and every day, even when my eyeballs feel like they’re exploding. And the key to my solution? Red Lipstick and a bit of blusher!
Let me demonstrate. Here is a shattered me, with bad hair and eyebags. Yuck.:
But then slapping on a bit of red lipstick with a hint of BeneFit’s Coralista blush and BOOM, all better:
(Lipstick: Revlon red. So much more moisturising than its MAC counterpart)
The second step on my journey to feeling more myself when I actually feel like the back end of a bus is to GET DRESSED. It is so tempting to stay in pyjamas all day (and I have done that plenty of times since Hux was born) but if I need a bit of an extra boost I just put some proper clothes on. Which, as I write it down, must sound absolutely ridiculous. Especially to those without children, but it totally works.
Once I have a bit of make up on my face and clothes on my back I’m suddenly able to get things done, make things happen. It’s quite amazing.
This is not a new trick I’ve been trying out; soon after I gave birth to Elfie I was diagnosed with having Post-Natal Depression. My moods have always been wildly affected by my hormones so it was no surprise to me, especially as we had moved temporarily to a new town without the support of our families. I was prescribed antidepressants but really wanted to kick it on my own. And I did, with the help of my husband and my determination to get out of the house wearing lipstick and real clothes. I still get blue days now, especially at times of emotional upheaval and tiredness, but it really helps me pull myself out of it.
My lovely blogging friend Dee who I met at BritMums Live! this year has been involved in a new initiative to get mums feeling good about themselves and simultaneously raise money and awareness for PND. It’s a challenge to break out of your own personal style rut and break out your dresses called FrOctober. They want mums to wear a dress each and every day of the month and Tweet, blog and Instagram their journeys. You can follow ‘Frocker’ Becca‘s journey on the FrOctober blog or see what everyone on Twitter is wearing via the hashtag #frOctober. If you are able please consider donating or supporting the cause via the FrOctober Facebook page.
As for me, I’m not quite pledging to wear a dress every single day of October (though I have the last two!). But I AM pledging to not wear my pyjamas. I think that’s a good start.