For all single parents, there comes a time in their newly re-discovered single lives when they start to crave something a little more than their friendships. Having exhausted most of your pals’ free time, (“can’t we just have a quiet night in with Netflix, Alice?”) they start to get itchy feet, yearning to discover some new and interesting members of the opposite sex.
Yep, they starting to think about online dating again.
As a mum who works from home, online dating was always something of a necessity for me. Because unless I spotted a tall handsome stranger in the aisles of the supermarket and trailed him round to check out his trolley (has happened), or plucked up the courage to approach a stranger in a bar (rarely happens when you like being in bed before 11pm), it’s literally impossible to meet men.
I mean they’re all around, one only needs to gaze around when on the train or hanging out at a park, it’s just meeting them in a way that doesn’t make you seem like a stalker that’s the issue. And I say that as a woman who’s definitely made overly intense small talk with a slightly terrified man who she fancies on more than one occasion.
Which is why I dated online, a practice I actually don’t mind too much. You see, most single parents are time-poor, so I always think it’s beneficial for us to be able to learn as much as we can about our prospective beaus before embarking on that first date: look at an online dating profile as a personality and romantic CV, if you will.
Co-ordinating a time and a date when you’re either without kids or you can get a babysitter, a time and date when you’re not too knackered to actually get your arse at the table across from this mythical first date? It’s bloody hard. Not to mention expensive.
But of course, you can’t judge someone properly until you discover whether that all-important chemistry exists, and that’s when the dates start becoming key. As nice and low-maintenance as a relationship where you never had to actually meet the guy would be, there will come a time where you have to sit across from a member of the opposite sex in a cafe or pub.
You have to go on a date.
As a single parent, herein lies the rub. Co-ordinating a time and a date when you’re either without kids or you can get a babysitter, a time and date when you’re not too knackered to actually get your arse at the table across from this mythical first date? It’s bloody hard. Not to mention expensive. And if they’re a single parent, too? It becomes doubly difficult. I’ve had situations where we’ve gone backwards and forwards trying to arrange a date for such a long time that I’ve just bloody given up. The headache caused by all the diary co-ordination is just not worth it.
Single Parent Dating
Match was the very first dating service I signed up to when I became single after ten years a massive almost-six years ago, and I always think of it as the classic place to go if you’re looking for something long-term rather than a quick ‘swipe’. They served me up my very first post-marriage boyfriend on a digital platter, which is why I’m so happy to tell you about their current initiative to help single parents like me find love.
The realities of modern dating are that, although us single parents are as interested in romance as the rest of the population, it can be really hard to negotiate the time and the space to find it.
Modern-day Romeos and Juliets, the lot of us!
Which is why Match want to empower single parents to get back in the dating game by offering free babysitting hours (you’ll get three – more than enough for that first date!) via babysitting service Yoopies, to every new or re-registering member.
In addition, any usual membership fees to Yoopies will also be waived and the offer will be available throughout the summer, giving you time to peruse Match fully for your ideal man.
Click here to register to Match and get your free babysitting hours from Yoopies.
And if your single parent friends go quiet in the coming days, you know they’re busy combing the site for their ultimate Prince Charming.
For more information visit http://bit.ly/HappyDating
Match is currently are offering 3 free babysitting hours via a service called Yoopies. Any new or existing Match member will be able to get a date night free with three free hours of babysitting, plus the usual membership fee to Yoopies waived. The Yoopies premium membership is valid for 2 months after being credited on the account.