Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been reading with interest in the news the effect the coming of Autumn has on some of us. For me it’s always been a bit of a hard time; I’m such a sun hunter that the prospect of six months of darkness, drizzle and shivering leaves me feeling a bit blah. I dread the quest to find tights that don’t fall down, boots that fit well, look good and are comfortable and woolly jumpers that I won’t shrink on the first wash.
In a nutshell it’s a rainy September 21st and in defiance my Birkinstocks and Havaianas are still proudly living by the front door and on my feet for the school run. My toes are blue.
I think the autumn effect has been multiplied by having school-aged children who also enter into a period of flux at this time. Last year it was Elfie starting school and Hux pre-school, this year she’s going into year one and beginning ballet lessons while both of them have started to learn how to swim (so far Hux HATES being wet and cold for a long half hour… the less we talk about that the better). Our routine has changed and we’ve had to adapt once again to get where we need to be on time and in one piece.
Without playing my own mini violin, it’s also a time that seems to make me feel a bit lonely at my single status. It’s harder to get out of the house in the evenings to see friends so there’s more Netflix, more cosy nights in, more meals for one. Boohooh ;)
But this season I’ve been trying to be a bit more zen about the whole thing. I did a bit of work with a now-age website last month and a lot of the lessons have stayed with me.
Since my divorce I’ve been into the idea of living life on a ‘higher vibration’ and paying more attention to my own spirituality. I’m not religious but I do believe in some sort of larger power – and though I don’t quite know what this means for me yet I’ve enjoyed learning more about the Universe, astro and tarot as a way of explaining some of the things that happens in our world. You can read an interview with tarot queen Louise Androlia here if you want an introduction to merging our mind, body and spirit.
We’re at a particularly turbulent time in our Universe at the moment; the Autumn Equinox is on Wednesday 23rd September and the total lunar eclipse falls on the same day as the new moon this month – 29th September. These lunar and seasonal shifts may well be a contributing factor to the unease some of us are feeling right now as we transition into winter.
The Autumn Equinox is a particularly special time, a date on which day and night are equal and we in the Northern Hemisphere are at the tipping point towards darkness. It’s also the time when the sun transits from Virgo into Libra, which is of course the time of balance. After the Autumn Equinox and right up until the Midwinter Solstice the nights will be longer than days and I guess this is the thought that rattles me a bit.
But this year I’m learning that rather to resist the changes it’s better to embrace the seasonal cycle, to appreciate the beauty of the changing leaves and big heavy skies, eat seasonally and reflect on the seasons past.
I’ve decided to limit Netflix and read as much as I can. I’ve ordered tons of books to see me through the darker seasons (I’m particularly looking forward to Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Eat Pray Love author Elizabeth Gilbert). I’ve bought new sheets for my bed and big cushions for my sofa, packed away all the summer clothes to make room for fluffy jumpers and ordered inspiring new recipe books so I can fill our bellies for months to come.
I’ve got intentions to focus more on my writing and the bits of work I enjoy, to give video another go (!!) and to basically plan for the season; instead of mourning the loss of summer I am celebrating what’s to come. And it obviously begins today, the day I made my first soup of almost-Autumn ;)
And I’m definitely not going to stress about not having a boyfriend… if I’m single all the way through til next summer then I won’t even have to think about shaving my legs until then. Perfect!
Who else is going to batten down the hatches and think happy thoughts about the next six months?
This is a collaborative post with kind thanks to The Circle