We are now entering that strange period of time when we could realistically have a new baby here in 4-8 weeks and there is no way of predicting when it will happen. I think the to-do list of things we have left to accomplish before d-day is as long as my arm (I only think this because I haven’t gotten around to writing it yet) and the thought of all the washing and toy cleaning I have to do makes me want to go back to bed and take a long nap. We are going to have a newborn here soon. And a toddler. Oh my god.
It’s a good thing I’m going to be able to have a glass of wine soon because that’s the kind of thought that makes me want to reach for the bottle.
Last weekend we went away for the night for the last time as a family of three. We had an absolutely brilliant time at a 30th birthday party in Dorset (a sentence I never thought I’d hear uttered: “Oh good! You’re here! We can start the rounders game now!”) and Elfie was an absolute angel. She loved sharing a hotel room with us though woke up at 7am on the dot – which was actually more like 6am due to the clocks going forward. Luckily an hour of CBeebies in her cot with a banana allowed us to snooze. She also had her first experience of the sea which she could not get enough of, the mentalist. It was freezing. I looked after the pram whilst she and her dad paddled.
This week has been a bit rubbish really. After coming down with what I thought was a tummy bug on Monday night I spent the next day in bed feeling awful (thank goodness for my mum who had Elfie from 9am til bedtime – there’s no way I would have been able to look after her in that state). That afternoon I started having very strong Braxton Hicks contractions, one every ten minutes, and after consulting Twitter (obviously) I called my Midwife who told me to get myself into hospital. Thank goodness for my mother-in-law who took over Elfie duty whilst my mum drove me to the ADAU. I’m well into oversharing so I hope you won’t mind me telling you that my pee was the colour of cloudy Lucozade, which is weird because I don’t even like Lucozade. I was dehydrated and had loads of nasty things showing up on the urine tests which the doctor concluded meant a UTI. Apparently during pregnancy UTIs can be asymptomatic and can manifest themselves in different ways, such as in what might appear to be a tummy bug. They let me come home that evening with some hefty antibiotics and instructions to rest. Though any mothers out there will be able to tell you that resting whilst looking after a toddler is pretty impossible.
I have been completely wiped out all week, but today was the first day I have woken up and not just wanted to go straight back to sleep again. It feels brilliant to re-join the human race.
In other news Elfie thinks my huge stomach is hilarious and likes to poke my belly button, and then lift up her shirt and poke her own. She also likes to soap it up when I take her in the shower with me. We’ve had lots of people ask how she has reacted to the news, to which I respond “really? You think I can explain a new baby brother to the girl who only gets excited about bananas and airplanes?”. She basically has no idea what is about to happen and I feel quite guilty that we will be completely rocking her world to such an extent.
I’m still feeling very positive about my VBAC and am hoping this attitude will help me get the experience I want. I’m focussing on the messages from my Hypnobirthing books (really) and reading up on the process and historical non-medicalised births rather than One Born Every Minute-type hospital births and am hopeful that this positive frame of mind will go a long way to create a happy experience. We shall see. I still don’t like that the medical professionals I come across seem to be encouraging so much intervention (the midwife in the ADAU told me they’d probably encourage me to have an epidural due to my previous section: do not want) so in the next couple of weeks I want to write a strong birth plan and make sure I discuss it all at length with Will, who I expect will act as my birth advocate. As long as he’s not one of those husbands that do nothing but shout ‘push’ and vomitsat the sight of a crowning baby, I think I’ll be happy.
(Apologies for the rubbish photos this week: Mr ‘I bet David Bailey never has to deal with this shit’ was rushing to get back to work)
Week 31
Week 28
Week 24
Week 20
Week 16
Week 14
Week 12
Week 6/8
You say all that happens and yet you still look bloody fabulous. I’m not at all jealous, oh no! I looked like a marshmallow that had been in the microwave. And could no longer stand, never mind pick up my toddler. She loved doing the tummy thing just like Elfie. Who is, like her mother, also ridiculously attractive. No wonder you are up for an award :D
You are way too kind! let’s blame the fact that Elfie loves to have her hair blow dried, so my thrice-weekly hair wash and blow dry is still sacred! xx
Ummm WHERE DID THAT BELLY COME FROM!?! I swear you looked so much smaller last week… or maybe cameras really do add 10lbs!
Sorry you’ve had a shitty week, fingers crossed for plain sailing until d-day! xx
It seemed to pop out right after I was ill – weirdly enough! Your eyes aren’t deceiving you! xx
I have found the hypnobirthing stuff really helpful so far (although admittedly not actually given birth yet so we’ll see), and have avoided One Born Every Minute like the plague. You keep that positive attitude no matter what the medical profession try to do to you!
I’m not sure how helpful it’ll be on D Day but I’m definitely finding hypnobirthing useful in keeping my attitude positive now! x
I can hardly believe how quickly the time has gone. I do hope that you remain fit and well for the future.
Me too – the time has flown!
I’m assuming the toddler + baby thing was planned so you’ve only got yourself to blame :)
I think it won’t be as scary as you think though ;)
Blame my husband! And a shedload of wine! ;)
Sorry you’ve had a rough week x x x
But wow, look at that belly – it’s grown loads but still looks so neat and cute!
It seems to be defying gravity at the moment! x
Wow! Someone’s had a growth spurt!! Looking fab and love the leggings/trousers.
I can’t begin to imagine how it must feel gearing your mind from your section experience to a natural birth plan. I think positive thinking is totally right. Seems like you’re quite determined too which is half the battle.
I had water births with both the boys. It’s strange reading your post on UTI and pregnancy. I was at the docs today for a second antibiotic and was like “Oh i’ve never really had a kidney infection thing before” To which the Doc replied “ehh you had one this time last year”. That time being my pregnancy with Tobias.. I had totally forgotten… These niggly pregnancy pain on the asses are temporal and hopefully a sign that the actually delivery is a good one.
Keep resting lady and get that baba piling on the pounds in the last stretch!! xxxxx
I don’t know how……but you are kinda making me miss being pregnant. In a very weird sorta way xx
Gosh you’ve really grown since your last bump pictures. I remember feeling exactly the same about what we were about to inflict on Mini and also a little sad that he’d never remember when it was just the three of us, but I have to say on the whole watching him become a big brother has been so lovely. Whilst there has been jealousy and rough love, he also cares more about Nano than he does anything or anyone else. It’s really lovely.
I seem to have popped! Thank you for your comment, you’ve definitely put my mind at ease somewhat about the fact we’re about to uproot Elfie’s world x
Don’t apologise for the bad photos. The tree photo and the sea one with daddy are lovely!
They’re the ones I took! My husband is a HORRIBLE photographer (I feel a bit mean saying that but he’ll admit it himself ;). I should really just get the tripod back out and buy a camera remote!
Looking super Alice, despite your rough week, can’t believe you’re heading towards D-(or should I say B?) day so fast – eek, he’ll be here in no time! x