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Our Single Parent Ski Holiday

February 17, 2017
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Having been a single parent since Hux was 6 months old – he’s now nearly five – I thought I’d seen the worst of the solo mum struggles. The routines you have to get into to make sure everything gets done, the logistical nightmares of picking up two kids from different nurseries when you’re working late, the financial juggles you do to make your money stretch far enough… been there, done that, got the baby sick-covered tshirt. It’s certainly true…

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What Gilmore Girls Gets Right About Single Parents

December 6, 2016
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Recently, like the rest of the world, I’ve been watching Gilmore Girls. Goodness knows why I’ve never seen it before – it’s precisely the kind of easy-to-watch bingeable TV I enjoy, made all the more relevant as the main storylines focus on a single mother and her relationship with her daughter. Four years ago when I first became a single parent I would never have believed what the future would hold – especially as I had yet to watch Gilmore…

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Growing On Up

September 6, 2016
Growing On Up

When it comes to my children I hover somewhere between occasional private emotional wreck and purposefully stoical. I might shed the odd tear once or twice (hello, Cold Feet new season/random Radiohead songs/THE NOTEBOOK obvs) but by and large, in matters of motherhood, I manage to keep it together in public. OR SO I THOUGHT. In July I was that mum hiding behind big sunglasses with a suspiciously snotty tissue at Hux’s end of term pre-school play, thinking thoughts of bygone…

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Surviving the Single Parent Holiday (With Bells On!): Mark Warner Lakitira

July 4, 2016
Surviving single parent holiday

I always find it incredible that when I go on holiday something profound seems to shift. Literally every trip I’ve been on in the last few years has brought a positive change in some way – Thailand, New York, New York again, Paxos – and I think the perspective you gain by being somewhere geographically foreign to you is one of the most incredible gifts. You see yourself in a slightly different light, see the world in a slightly different light.…

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Is Loneliness The Worst Part of Single Parenting?

June 8, 2016

In my life as a single parent there’s nothing I really begrudge, but admittedly the loneliness does get tough. You’d have to be a robot not to get affected by it; as humans we are pack animals, used to travelling together, working in a partnership to hunt and gather (or, in 2016, deciding on and ordering a Deliveroo). So I guess it’s only natural that spending night after night on my own can get a little tedious sometimes. It’s not all…

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What Being a Single Parent Feels Like

June 1, 2016
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I watched Myleene Klass’s Single Parents On Benefits programme last night. In fact, 24 hours before it aired I got cross when I read the title of the programme (mistake number one). And then, at 2am that night when I couldn’t sleep, I read the Daily Mail article slating all the mums on the programme (mistake number two). Which is why, at 7am the next morning when I was getting my single mum arse on an early train for a big work…

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Then There Were Three

January 5, 2016
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My family dynamic should have never been three. Four, it was always going to be four. Somehow I always knew that, whether it was growing up in a foursome myself or just One Of Those Things: my family was going to be four. Done. I thought maybe it was going to be five for a time, after I had one of those dreams so vivid that you wake up and can’t step out of the life your subconscious invented while you…

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Single Parent Positivity

November 18, 2015
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I finally realised how under-represented single parents are in our society when I last upgraded my iPhone’s OS. The Emoji keyboard updates caused celebrations on Social Media because AT LAST! Alternative families were finally represented in teeny tiny cartoon form. Two mums and a child – brilliant! Gay fathers with boy and a girl babies – excellent! But where were the single parents? Despite a quarter of children in the UK being raised in one-parent families, according to my Emoji keyboard…

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What A Single Mum Does Without Her Kids

April 2, 2015

Whenever anyone talks to me about my single parenting and then says to me “I don’t know how you do it” I feel a little bit satisfied. I kind of plump my feathers a bit and explain that I do it because I have to and think: “finally! Someone’s noticed all my hard work and thinks I’m amazing!” But it’s actually not really that simple. I’ll tell you exactly how I do it; I do it because every fortnight the children go off…

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How To Fight A Cold The Single Mum Way

February 9, 2015

I‘ve had one of those colds. You’ll know – the ones that go on and on and on and on (and on and on and on). It started a fortnight ago, knocking both Hux and I down. Then I thought it got better that weekend but it didn’t (which is definitely the reason why I couldn’t handle my cocktails…) and I was eventually completely and utterly KO’d, unable to do anything but whine by the next Friday. I even missed a very very important…

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New School Year Guilt

September 3, 2014

When you’re a mother, the default mode seems to be GUILT. I thought this was just me until I started talking to my mum friends and realised this guilt phenomenon is universal. From what I can tell, save a few books by G Ford or your parenting practitioner of choice, we’re all pretty clueless when it comes to this parenting journey. Which means you’re always second guessing your choices, wondering if you make the best decisions when it comes to…

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