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When Should You Introduce Your Kids To Your Boyfriend?

April 4, 2017
When should you introduce your kids to your boyfriend?

You guys, I’ve met someone. I know, just as I was becoming comfortable with the idea of buying a shedload of cats and calling it a day, I went on a date and that magic thing that happens when you meet someone really great occurred. POOF! Something clicked, and it’s been brilliant ever since. A few months in and all is rosy: we have long lovely dinner dates, fall asleep watching movies on the sofa and run errands together. Even the…

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What Being a Single Parent Feels Like

June 1, 2016
why are mums tired

I watched Myleene Klass’s Single Parents On Benefits programme last night. In fact, 24 hours before it aired I got cross when I read the title of the programme (mistake number one). And then, at 2am that night when I couldn’t sleep, I read the Daily Mail article slating all the mums on the programme (mistake number two). Which is why, at 7am the next morning when I was getting my single mum arse on an early train for a big work…

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Then There Were Three

January 5, 2016
single parent family

My family dynamic should have never been three. Four, it was always going to be four. Somehow I always knew that, whether it was growing up in a foursome myself or just One Of Those Things: my family was going to be four. Done. I thought maybe it was going to be five for a time, after I had one of those dreams so vivid that you wake up and can’t step out of the life your subconscious invented while you…

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Counting My Motherhood Blessings

April 14, 2015

I feel so very lucky to be a mother. It might not have happened in the ‘right’ way (at 24 I felt like a teenage mother) and I perhaps haven’t ended up in the ‘perfect’ family situation, however these two little people are my absolute world. But I find that it’s so easy to get lost in the motherhood fug and forget how fortunate I am to be a parent. You know how it goes – you get up mega early with a…

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What A Single Mum Does Without Her Kids

April 2, 2015

Whenever anyone talks to me about my single parenting and then says to me “I don’t know how you do it” I feel a little bit satisfied. I kind of plump my feathers a bit and explain that I do it because I have to and think: “finally! Someone’s noticed all my hard work and thinks I’m amazing!” But it’s actually not really that simple. I’ll tell you exactly how I do it; I do it because every fortnight the children go off…

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How To Fight A Cold The Single Mum Way

February 9, 2015

I‘ve had one of those colds. You’ll know – the ones that go on and on and on and on (and on and on and on). It started a fortnight ago, knocking both Hux and I down. Then I thought it got better that weekend but it didn’t (which is definitely the reason why I couldn’t handle my cocktails…) and I was eventually completely and utterly KO’d, unable to do anything but whine by the next Friday. I even missed a very very important…

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This Year I Didn’t Get A Christmas Tree, Or What It’s Like To Spend Christmas Without Your Children

December 27, 2014

This year I didn’t get a Christmas tree. It wasn’t really a conscious decision. I’d planned to get our tree the weekend of the 13th but after spending those couple of days in London with old friends (hungover, decease post the annual Christmas pilgrimage to Shoreditch House for Espresso Martinis) a busy garden center was really the last place I wanted to be. Then it didn’t happen that next weekend and by the time life slowed down enough… well, doctor…

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The Real Cost Of Being A Single Working Parent

July 1, 2014

NB: I know it’s not entirely the ‘done’ thing to talk about money, because OMG we’re British and when it comes to our wallets we keep our mouths closed, but this is something I can’t stop thinking about. And therefore something I wanted to write about. So there.  Raising kids is an expensive business. We all know that. But how expensive is it to be a working (single) mum? That’s what I’ve been wondering. When I accepted my job I…

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Ramblings On Tiredness And Work That May Or May Not Make Sense

June 19, 2014
coffee pot

When you become a mum, you learn how to be tired. There are the different sorts of tired; that hazy newborn stage when you’re up all night and are urged to ‘sleep when the baby sleeps’ so end up zoned out in front of Jeremy Kyle while you feed the baby. The tiredness in these weeks meant I don’t remember those days save for lots of sofa and TV, but at least there was minimal pressure to get out of…

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Single Life

Happy Freaking Mother’s Day

March 29, 2014

  Mother’s Day has become one of THOSE times. Like Christmas and my Wedding Anniversary, it’s a day that doesn’t make me regret the twists and turns in my life but instead wonder, how did that happen? How did I end up here? Sometimes I still feel like I am living a dream. The single life, though a year old, it is really quite new. There is still novelty to be found in the dating, in the independence of being…

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Single Mum Dating: The Elephant In The Room

March 7, 2014

Dating is so hard at this age, with this much baggage. Most 28 year olds are just getting into their careers, travelling, enjoying time with their friends; not juggling full-time single parenting of two small people with a demanding full-time job and an ex-husband. The online dating profile does not exactly write itself, am I right? There is a reason you are usually part of a couple when you have kids. There’s someone else to share the pure torture of…

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