Browsing Tag

relationships

Love + Dating

Single Mum Dating: 4 Years On

March 15, 2017
4 years of dating

When I came to the dating scene four years ago after being in a long-term relationship, I was blindly optimistic. The number of dates I’d been on in my life had amounted to approximately six, with number six being with my ex-husband (and after we were ‘a couple’, so did it really count?); having spent my late teens being wooed over warm snakebite in the SU bar I was excited to live some kind of perceived single-woman Carrie Bradshaw dream. Except…

Continue Reading

Love + Dating

What I Learned About Love (By Getting a Divorce)

February 15, 2017
love lessons from divorce

When you get married at the age of 23 as I did, you think you know it all. About love, life, the universe… everything. I went into marriage thinking I was as grown up as I was going to get, blissfully unaware that one day it would fail, genuinely believing the wedding would fix all that I perceived was wrong with my life. Spoiler: it didn’t. If anything it magnified all the wrongs, highlighted the cracks, displayed the faults: like a…

Continue Reading

Love + Dating

Would You Throw a Divorce Party?

February 1, 2017

By design, divorce is altogether a negative thing. When a couple comes together in marriage and then splits at a later date, it’s usually a painful and difficult process. Have experienced it first-hand I can say that reneging on promises that enable you to be bound by law (and god, if that floats your boat) is not a great feeling. Was I distraught when I got divorced? No, not really. By then I’d been separated for two years, my ex-husband had…

Continue Reading

Love + Dating

The Trouble With Ghosting

January 10, 2017
ghosting

In the world of modern dating, you’re very lucky if you don’t encounter at least a certain amount of douchebaggery (technical term) at one point or another. I’ve had my fair share of weirdos and oddballs: the controlling men, the sexual deviants, the convicted criminals, the married ones. Looking back, my dating history is a veritable A-Z of ‘What Was I Thinking?’. But recently, I’ve noticed something new. Something I thought that, as a thirty-something woman dating men my age…

Continue Reading

Love + Dating

The 6 Month Man Drought

October 31, 2016

This year I took a 6 month break from men. Took a break from dating, I guess, more than actual men, but as my romantic interests lie in the male of the species it meant I had little contact with men who weren’t a) related to me, or b) work colleagues. It wasn’t a conscious decision, this cutting out of the men. It came after a string of bad dates and my unintentionally hurting someone’s feelings and I decided: enough.…

Continue Reading

Love + Dating

6 Times I Could Do With a Boyfriend

May 17, 2016

I came to the realisation a couple of days ago that, for the first time since my marriage ended three years ago, I’m really quite happy on my own. Don’t write me off just yet – I’m not about to buy a couple of cats and commit myself to a life of singledom – but I am increasingly enjoying my own company, let’s say, Carrie Bradshaw-style. Think: good job, great friends, lovely home, enough shoes. Sorted! It’s an overall feeling…

Continue Reading

Love + Dating

Secret Single Behaviours

March 23, 2016
secret single behaviours

Whether it’s a bit tragic, I make no bones about the fact I’d quite like a boyfriend. On a good day I’m stoically nodding, noting that yeah, it would maybe be nice to have someone to discuss Making a Murderer and the NHS crisis with. On a bad day I’m wailing into a vat of red wine about being lonely and just wanting a body to lie next to once in a while. On a terrible day I’m perusing Cockapoo…

Continue Reading