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Motherhood

The New Superheroes

August 16, 2016
#VertbaudetHeroes

It goes without saying that we’re big on feminism and empowerment in this house. 5 years ago I never thought I’d be in my position – a single mum running a business around a hectic life – but the rollercoaster experience of re-building a family and becoming a breadwinner has been a true lesson in the strength of a woman. Back then I (of course!) acknowledged strong women and their achievements, but I’d never thought that could be me. I thought…

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Hux’s Birthday Party at Hollywood Bowl

June 6, 2016
Hux's Birthday

Today I said to Hux, “hey buddy, remind me how old you are again?” Because sometimes I look at him and I still see a baby, my sweet baby who curls up in my arms for comfort and kisses and couldn’t possibly be starting school in 3 short months. I can’t reconcile the growing boy in front of me with that tiny baby I spent a week cuddled up to on an overly warm hospital ward in that glorious May. Gosh,…

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Motherhood

What Being a Single Parent Feels Like

June 1, 2016
why are mums tired

I watched Myleene Klass’s Single Parents On Benefits programme last night. In fact, 24 hours before it aired I got cross when I read the title of the programme (mistake number one). And then, at 2am that night when I couldn’t sleep, I read the Daily Mail article slating all the mums on the programme (mistake number two). Which is why, at 7am the next morning when I was getting my single mum arse on an early train for a big work…

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Motherhood

My Number One Baby Tip

May 18, 2016
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It’s funny that, now I’m a bit older, I can see the whole baby experience through slightly wiser eyes. OK, ok. So I might not be wiser. Will I ever be wiser? Probably not. But I do think that, over the last six and a half years of pregnancy and motherhood, I have learned one or two things about babies and children. Some of it I’ve forgotten, cheers sleep deprivation. Some I’ve tucked away in the darker recesses of my…

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Life

My Becoming

May 13, 2016
Becoming Laura Jane Williams

One of my very favourite quotes in Lena Dunham’s girls is when Hannah explains why she’s short on time: “I have work, then a dinner thing, then I am busy trying to become who I am” Because that is how I have felt, ever since I split up with the person I thought was the love of my life 3 years ago. I am busy trying to become who I am. You see, I used to think personal development was…

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Motherhood

Mum Life: Why I’m So Tired

March 15, 2016
why are mums tired

When I became a mum, the standard answer to the question “How are you?” meant one thing, and one thing only. “Tired” That became boring after, ooh, three years or so, and so I started to diversify my answers. “Great! Still not sleeping through the night!”, or “Fabulous! As soon as she stops waking at 5am…”. The sleep, oh the sleep, it’s always about the sleep. Recently, to my surprise, the children have actually started to sleep. I KNOW. From…

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Motherhood

7 Things That Make Me Feel Like A Mother

February 23, 2016
Things That Make Me Feel Like A Mother

There are people who’d have you believe – Hollywood and the media in general, I’m looking at you – that the process of becoming a mum is one and the same. You pop a (clean, non-gungy) baby out, gaze at its perfect rosy pink face and are magically transported into a world of blissful love and unicorns. Sometimes this happens. As an avid fan of birth stories (why are they so addictive?), I adore reading the ones that really do…

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Mums: Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?

February 12, 2016
does divorce turn you into a commitment-phobe

On Monday night I did not sleep well. The wind was howling away at our windows, which meant Elfie, who’s a light sleeper when there’s background noises, spent the night shouting out in her sleep. It used to be alarming but it’s now generally pure comedy: she says the funniest things in her sleep and is always SO cross – “NO HUX, THE LEGO IS MINE!!!” – but it doesn’t half keep me awake. I had that kind of sleep…

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Motherhood

The Power of Me Time

January 26, 2016
the power of me time

When you’re a mum, any kind of mum – single, working, attached, stay at home – alone, or ‘me time’ become incredibly precious. In your new job as caretaker of a little mewling, pooping, vomiting bundle of joy you suddenly become indispensable, the most important person in the world to your offspring. Sure, Daddy’s grand, but having grown inside you for the last 9 months, new baby reckons Mummy is where it’s at. And new baby has no sense of night…

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Motherhood

Getting More Sleep

November 30, 2015
Getting more sleep

I’ve long bemoaned the fact that I don’t get enough sleep. It’s only within the last 4 months that both my children have started sleeping through the night (it’s horrifying this has taken so long) and they are early risers, too: Elfie was up at 5.45am this morning. Heavy sigh. Generally the only times I regret getting divorced are when I miss having another parent in the house to shoulder 50% of the night wake-ups and early mornings. If you…

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Single Life

Single Parent Positivity

November 18, 2015
single mums

I finally realised how under-represented single parents are in our society when I last upgraded my iPhone’s OS. The Emoji keyboard updates caused celebrations on Social Media because AT LAST! Alternative families were finally represented in teeny tiny cartoon form. Two mums and a child – brilliant! Gay fathers with boy and a girl babies – excellent! But where were the single parents? Despite a quarter of children in the UK being raised in one-parent families, according to my Emoji keyboard…

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