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Is Loneliness The Worst Part of Single Parenting?

June 8, 2016
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In my life as a single parent there’s nothing I really begrudge, but admittedly the loneliness does get tough. You’d have to be a robot not to get affected by it; as humans we are pack animals, used to travelling together, working in a partnership to hunt and gather (or, in 2016, deciding on and ordering a Deliveroo). So I guess it’s only natural that spending night after night on my own can get a little tedious sometimes. It’s not all…

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Hux’s Birthday Party at Hollywood Bowl

June 6, 2016
Hux's Birthday

Today I said to Hux, “hey buddy, remind me how old you are again?” Because sometimes I look at him and I still see a baby, my sweet baby who curls up in my arms for comfort and kisses and couldn’t possibly be starting school in 3 short months. I can’t reconcile the growing boy in front of me with that tiny baby I spent a week cuddled up to on an overly warm hospital ward in that glorious May. Gosh,…

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What Being a Single Parent Feels Like

June 1, 2016
why are mums tired

I watched Myleene Klass’s Single Parents On Benefits programme last night. In fact, 24 hours before it aired I got cross when I read the title of the programme (mistake number one). And then, at 2am that night when I couldn’t sleep, I read the Daily Mail article slating all the mums on the programme (mistake number two). Which is why, at 7am the next morning when I was getting my single mum arse on an early train for a big work…

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My Number One Baby Tip

May 18, 2016
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It’s funny that, now I’m a bit older, I can see the whole baby experience through slightly wiser eyes. OK, ok. So I might not be wiser. Will I ever be wiser? Probably not. But I do think that, over the last six and a half years of pregnancy and motherhood, I have learned one or two things about babies and children. Some of it I’ve forgotten, cheers sleep deprivation. Some I’ve tucked away in the darker recesses of my…

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Now You Are Four

May 16, 2016
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Happy Birthday, darling Hux! It’s really difficult to sum up your child and their year. Looking back at when Hux turned three he still looked quite the baby – but watching him opposite me at the breakfast table today munching on a banana pancake he’s a little boy, a bonafide pre-schooler. In fact, I still can’t get over the fact that my little boy, my youngest, will be off to school this September. Although Elfie was younger when she started…

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Sick Days (and Long Nights)

April 19, 2016
Sick days

Hold out your clenched hand in front of you. Release your first, second and third fingers. Got it? Three, that’s what you can see, THREE. THAT is the amount of times that I have suffered a tummy upset at the hands of a 3 and 5 year old in the last six weeks. THREE TIMES in the last FORTY-TWO DAYS. I am sick of being sick. I guess it’s my own fault for giving birth to a child who has…

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Warrior Woman Births: Caesarian vs Vaginal

March 29, 2016
9 Month Pregnant Belly

Facebook loves a good birth announcement. “So-and-so is proud to announce the arrival of little Baby Fontleroy, weighing 10lbs 6oz, delivered naturally with only gas an air!! What a warrior Woman Wife is! Mum and baby doing well“ I see it all the time. All. The. Time. And it’s lovely, it really is, because babies are lovely. I love babies. I’d have sixty babies if my boobs were still pointing upwards by number sixty (as it is, they wouldn’t, so…

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Mum Life: Why I’m So Tired

March 15, 2016
why are mums tired

When I became a mum, the standard answer to the question “How are you?” meant one thing, and one thing only. “Tired” That became boring after, ooh, three years or so, and so I started to diversify my answers. “Great! Still not sleeping through the night!”, or “Fabulous! As soon as she stops waking at 5am…”. The sleep, oh the sleep, it’s always about the sleep. Recently, to my surprise, the children have actually started to sleep. I KNOW. From…

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Mother’s Day For Three

March 6, 2016
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Today marks a special Mother’s day: I’ve now had more of them single than I did married. High fives all round! Mother’s Day these days is, if you don’t mind me saying so, a bit fraught with emotion. It’s rare I see the standard ‘breakfast in bed, happy family’ situation, as I feel I used to when I was in the same happy family fug. Maybe it’s me, but now I notice the women without mothers, I’m sensitive to those…

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7 Things That Make Me Feel Like A Mother

February 23, 2016
Things That Make Me Feel Like A Mother

There are people who’d have you believe – Hollywood and the media in general, I’m looking at you – that the process of becoming a mum is one and the same. You pop a (clean, non-gungy) baby out, gaze at its perfect rosy pink face and are magically transported into a world of blissful love and unicorns. Sometimes this happens. As an avid fan of birth stories (why are they so addictive?), I adore reading the ones that really do…

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Mums: Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?

February 12, 2016
does divorce turn you into a commitment-phobe

On Monday night I did not sleep well. The wind was howling away at our windows, which meant Elfie, who’s a light sleeper when there’s background noises, spent the night shouting out in her sleep. It used to be alarming but it’s now generally pure comedy: she says the funniest things in her sleep and is always SO cross – “NO HUX, THE LEGO IS MINE!!!” – but it doesn’t half keep me awake. I had that kind of sleep…

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