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How to Have a Baby When You Are Single

June 15, 2017
childrens birth times

Although these days the number of one-parent families in the UK is on the rise, having a baby when you are single remains rather taboo. However, despite not having a partner, many women decide to start a family on their own anyway. Because, unlike men, women have an “expiration date” when it comes to childbearing. As they don’t want to give up on their dream of motherhood, just because they haven’t yet found the right partner, some decide to start…

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Now You Are Five

May 31, 2017
Now You Are Five

Hux turning five was a bit emotional for me this year. It felt like a big milestone, almost five years we've done this thing alone, five years of our little threesome. I can hand-on-heart say that, although we may not be where I thought we'd be at this point, we're somewhere even better.…

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“You Should Have Asked”: The Division of Labour

May 25, 2017
the division of labour

No matter how progressive our cause of feminism is, there’s still a huge disparity between who takes on the majority of project management jobs at home. And I don’t mean the crappy day-to-day stuff that is easily taken care of, like the bins or the washing up, but I mean the brain power-intensive, management-heavy life admin tasks... and it doesn't feel good.…

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Do You Know When Your Children Were Born?

May 19, 2017
childrens birth times

It was Huxley’s birthday this week, a cake-filled occasion that seems to have prompted a whole host of questions from Elfie, the older child of the family. All of a sudden she’s fascinated with births, birthdays and exactly how babies come to be (though thankfully, not how they’re conceived. Yet). As we were driving home from the supermarket last weekend she thoughtfully enquired: “mummy, what time of day was I born?” I panicked a bit. “Erm…” I said. “About lunchtime, maybe?” “And what…

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Post-Natal Depression, Five Years On

May 2, 2017
Post-natal depression

The UK’s first Maternal Mental Health week started yesterday, and in support of opening up the conversations we should be having as new mums and as friends of new mums, I wanted to share my story again. My first brush with formal mental health support was as a 21 year old with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I was the only witness to my then-fiancee being stabbed by men trying to break into our car outside our home and the situation completely…

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How To Explain An Election To Children

April 20, 2017
explain an election to children

Let’s face it, life can get a little dark sometimes. After I had the kids, such were my feelings on the state of current affairs I didn’t watch the news. Everything scared me, everything made me concerned for the world I had brought my children into. As I’ve become increasingly braver (read: older) I think it’s more important than ever to stay abreast of what’s happening in the world. Yes, it’s often upsetting and infuriating but how are we to change the…

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5 Ways To Feel Human After Having a Baby

April 12, 2017
feel human after having a baby

It’s fair to say that when you become a mum you spend the majority of the next, ooh, two years feeling pretty shit. Which means that if, like me, you have two kids in two years (YAY!) you’ll more than likely feel like a swamp monster for not just two, but four years. The post-partum period really is a total delight. Your body has gone to pot (this is the v. intelligent medical term I favour), you forget what sleep…

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When Should You Introduce Your Kids To Your Boyfriend?

April 4, 2017
When should you introduce your kids to your boyfriend?

You guys, I’ve met someone. I know, just as I was becoming comfortable with the idea of buying a shedload of cats and calling it a day, I went on a date and that magic thing that happens when you meet someone really great occurred. POOF! Something clicked, and it’s been brilliant ever since. A few months in and all is rosy: we have long lovely dinner dates, fall asleep watching movies on the sofa and run errands together. Even the…

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My Mummy

March 23, 2017
Mr Men My Mummy

We’re big on talk about feelings in our house. I’m not sure if it’s because we’re a fractured family, but I always want my children to feel completely loved and secure: they’re constantly told how loved they are, how important they are and how much they mean to me. And I think it works… we’re always swapping germs (In the last two months alone we’ve all had flu, a sickness bug and a cold), and in my book if we’re…

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An Alternative Half Term

March 6, 2017
Alternative half term

Half term is a bit of a tricky one when you’re a working single mum. With the children at their dads’ for a few days I’m never quite sure which way to play it. On the one hand, half terms are one of the few chances I have at more than a couple of nights to myself, so it’s generally a great opportunity to have some down-time or get away. On the other, as a stretch of time with no…

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Three Things Mums Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About (But Do!)

December 21, 2016

Part of motherhood that we all seem pre-programmed to have in some form, whether we want it or not, is mum-guilt. From the moment your baby is born you’ll find things to feel guilty about that relate to your child. Motherhood alone is tiring enough, without adding in constant worry about what you’re doing wrong. But there are some things for which you should be able to shrug off the guilty sentiments straightaway. If you do, you’ll make life as…

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